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TRIBUTE TO MARTYN TUBB (10.11.1946 – 27.05.2011)

based on extracts from a eulogy given by Martyn’s niece, Sharon Gray, 17.06.11

 

Martyn was born in 1946 – one of the baby boomers. From the beginning Grandma felt there was something different about Martyn, but it wasn't until he was 3 that he was referred to Great Ormond Street hospital where his learning disabilities were identified.

 

I think it was Martyn's good fortune that his parents were Grandma and Gramps – Eunice and Bert. At a time when the potential of people with learning disabilities wasn't widely recognised, they set about ensuring Martyn became as independent as possible. By the time he was a teenager he was out and about on his own, either on his bike or on public transport. He loved swimming and spent a lot of time at the old Southampton Swimming baths where my Gramps worked. He also competed in swimming competitions and won some races as well.

 

Martyn always had a good social life and was an active member of Freemantle United Reformed Church where our family attended. I'm glad that he was able to maintain his link with the church throughout his life and that Edward the minister at Freemantle was able to lead the Service today.

 

In his twenties, Martyn began his working life. He attended a centre called Brookside in Millbrook. The centre took in work from various companies. As you can imagine, Martyn threw himself into whatever work he was asked to do and worked extremely hard. He very much enjoyed his time at Brookside and had many friends.  Times changed and this work came to an end, but that wasn't the end of Martyn's working career.  Instead he went to volunteer for a charity called Tools for Self Reliance where old tools are refurbished to be sent abroad to developing countries. Martyn worked extremely hard and knew that others would benefit from his work. Grandma would report how he'd come home covered in rust and dirt and tired but very happy.

 

When Martyn was in his early forties, it was clear that he was having difficulty walking. Sadly he was diagnosed with Friedrich's Ataxia. It is a testament to the determination of Martyn and Grandma and Gramps that he was able to walk for as long as he did. My grandparents (and belatedly Grandma after Gramps died) endeavoured to keep Martyn at home until it became very clear that this just wasn't possible and in 2000 Martyn moved to Kilford Court - which quickly became his home. This most certainly reflects the care, love and patience that was shown to Martyn when he arrived at Kilford Court and throughout the 11 years that it was his home. We were all struck by the warm and welcoming environment at Kilford Court, and Martyn also contributed greatly to this.

 

Martyn's family greatly appreciate how he was cared for at Kilford Court on a daily basis - and all the outings, holidays and visits to the pub!  We see his friends at Kilford Court – his carers and his fellow residents – very much as his family too.

 

Martyn was loving, kind and good-natured. He was interested in everyone and was pleased to hear all of your news and what you had been doing. He never forgot a thing. He would always ask David about the Saints. Whenever Maureen visited he always told her how lovely she looked – he was so polite. Suzanne said that he always remembered what car you had and always wanted to check that it was going well. He would ask about Trevor's job or how things were going for Richard at the police station. Rebecca recalled how she used to enjoy visiting Martyn on a Saturday morning with her Grandad. We know that Martyn thought a great deal about his family and we thought a great deal of him. As Sophie said to me, 'We loved him and he very much loved us'.

 

The one thing that Martyn seldom did was to complain or moan. He endured his declining health with stoicism and forbearance and in that he was a fine example.

 

We all know, but sometimes don't remember in our daily lives with all the hustle and bustle, that it's the people in our lives (or passing through our lives) that care about us and that we care about  that are the most important.  Martyn did not need reminding of this. He never forgot that it was the people he loved and that loved him that were the most important. And it's that that I will remember most about him.”



Betty St George

Betty was born in Wood Green In London on 1st June 1921.  She had an older brother, Jackie, who tragically died when he was 10, and Betty was 6.  As a young teenager the family lived in Clacton on Sea, She had a happy childhood and was a competitive Swimmer for which she won many trophies.   She left school at 15 5o become an apprentice hairdresser.

 

In 1939 her Father died and fearing an invasion by Hitler, Betty and her mother moved back to London. Betty worked in the Civil defence which was very risky during the Blitz. 

Betty enjoyed life in London and met Paula who became a lifelong friend.

In 1940 she Met Donald St George but didn’t meet for another 5 years as Don went overseas. They wrote to each other every other day , falling in love, becoming engaged and then married on 23rd December 1945.  They enjoyed 48 years of marriage.

Although Betty had suffered during the war with anorexia nervosa and was told she would probably never have children, she gave birth to 3 lovely girls, Anne, Kaye and Wendy.  The family were living in Newcastle under Lyme but moved to Southampton on 1958. This included her Mother Hilda who she cared for until her death in 1982.

When Don became ill her dedication in visiting and caring for him in hospital was admired by all.

She was devoted to her family and was thrilled when her family expanded with the arrival of 6 grandchildren.

Throughout her life she was a committed member of the Church, becoming a deacon and elder. She founded the WEGS (Young wives and women’s evening group ) . She was also a founder member of Churches together in Shirley, and the local Corrymela group showing her concern for peace in our troubled world.  She organised Christian Aid and was a mainstay of the Women’s Guild, serving as Vice president, chair and treasurer.  Betty also enjoyed helping with the playgroup and being on the tea committee.  She was a great cook.

Betty always had real concern for others and kept in touch with everyone, visited them in hospital.

Every minister she was worked with have greatly valued her support in pastoral care.

All of us will have our special memories of Betty, of which we give thank to God for. She was very unassuming but left a profound mark on our lives.  She had strong, straight forward faith.

She will be missed by everyone. 

This is a précis of the words spoken by Rev George Watt at Betty’s Funeral.

George William Avery

George was born on 9th March 1920 and his early years were spent in Freemantle, where he went to school, church and Sunday school and joined the Boys Brigade at Elim church. With his cousin Thelma he learned the piano using the family harmonium for practice. 

On leaving school he was employed in a fruit and vegetable wholesaler but moved on to become an office clerk at Brown Brothers Ltd where he remained as Office manager until his retirement in June 1982.   In the National League of Office Managers he was always in the top three for the best control of outstanding debts. This was down to his attention to detail, straightforward relations with customers and a consistent approach to his task.  This was achieved whilst running an office with 23, mainly women clerks and typists!

In the pre-war period, with his undoubted musical skill, he also was an accomplished accordion player , he was part of a touring band called ‘The Ambassadors’ which visited local churches and chapels to lead services, not just in Southampton but further afield.  They travelled on their bikes with the accordion strapped to the luggage rack!

Family holidays were spent mostly on the Isle of Wight with Grandmother. George had great affection for the IOW and reminisced about it often.

In the mid 1930’s his parents moved to Gover Road, Redbridge.  Not long after that he was called up for duty and joined the Coldstream Guards 2nd & 3rd Regiments, with his time spent mostly in Italy. The journey from Liverpool to Naples took 2 months, and soon after they arrived Mount Vesuvius erupted creating a great deal of dust and damage. Based mainly in Trieste, he was part of the vital supplies and communications group as the Allies made their way to victory in Italy.

It was while at Albany Barracks in Camden town, that he met Betty at a local Methodist youth club. In 1945 he married Betty, in 1946 he returned from Trieste to settle down to a civilian and married life in a flat in Gover Road. With son Michael aged 4 they moved to Testwood Totton in 1952.

George will be remembered for his numerous responsibilities he held, managing finances etc for various organisations, and being co-leader of the Aldermoor boys club. He was fully committed to helping the boys in all aspects of their lives and ensured they had the opportunity to learn about the Christian Faith by arranging a monthly Sunday worship service for them, bringing in like minded people to assists.  

He organised Church fetes, bazaars and was Chairman of the Mens Club at Totton Methodist Church, also Monthly socials where he was key pianist with help from other musicians.

His contribution at Totton Methodist Church and as Circuit Chapel Steward was, in December 1973 fully recognised as he became one of three Circuit Stewards for Southampton, being given full responsibly for financial property and organisation affairs in 18 churches.  For relaxation he found time to play the organ not only at Totton but later at Wimpsom and Swaythlng Methodist churches on a regular basis.  One of his life time missions in music was that it had to have a ‘bit of go’ in it, hymns included! 

In the early 1960’s George bought a Lambretta scooter, passed his test and from then on became a mature ‘mod’ with Betty on the pillion seat. In 1966, he passed his driving test on the 5th attempt in a veteran 1937 Austin 7 ‘Ruby’.

He also took a regular interest in the fortunes of the Saints football team. Brighton was the first team he took his son to see play against Saints and George was delighted to be part of the crowd at the Civic centre when Saints bought home the FA cup in may 1976.   He enjoyed heated debates on the ups and downs of the Saints, a tradition which continues down the generations.  

In recent years despite declining health he was able to join in several important family occasions, He and Betty celebrated their Diamond wedding anniversary in 2005. The day they received a card from her Majesty the Queen you could sense how much that meant to him.

He was always been proud of his son, his two grandsons and more recently his two great grandchildren.  His livelong devotion was to his wife Betty; they have known each other for 67 years.

Together George and Betty have very much appreciated being accepted as members at Freemantle URC, following the closure of their nearest Methodist church.

In whatever situation or organisation in which he was involved, you always knew you were with somebody, not only with a safe pair of hands but with a pillar of strength and truth.

For George, integrity, honesty and a real sense of duty to others, his church and professional work, shaped his total life.

This is a précis of the tribute address given by his grandson. 

The full version is available at Church.